Can I complain for a minute?
Okay, maybe longer...
I don't think my husband realizes just how good he's got it here. That's not to say I don't give him my fair ration of shit because I have, I can, and I do. But really, he's got it made.
He goes to work for 11-12 hours a day. Yes, it's hard work and yes I appreciate him doing so but that's 11-12 hours he's not dealing with shitty diapers, vomit all over the floor, screaming and crying and just all around fussiness. He gets a break from our daughter - I get none.
If he feels sick at work he has the option of calling out or leaving early and coming home to rest. I don't. I have to wait until he gets home and hope he feels well enough to help out so I can have 5 minutes to pee in peace.
He leaves dishes in the sink at night when he goes to bed and they're done by the time he gets home in the evenings only to turn around and leave them in the sink again. (All while telling me he'll do them in the morning before he goes to work...doesn't always happen)
I don't even remember the last time he did laundry. Which isn't a huge deal because I actually like doing laundry. But is it too much to ask a grown man to put the damn pile away? Stacking it on top of your bureau does not count fucker! They're already folded, put them in the damn drawers and be done with it!
I make dinner most nights, lately it's been every night. If I don't make anything we'll grab something while we're out.
I bathe and change our daughter every night. I started this to help her settle into a bedtime routine and it works pretty well for her. Once again would it kill him to give her a bath? "All you have to do is ask me to do it..." he replies. Just ONCE I would like for him to offer to do it. Why is it men must always be asked? I do the same thing every night and have been for the past 3 months or so - it's not a surprise!
I vacuum, I dust, I organize, I go food shopping, I make sure the bills are paid (and most of the time on time), I call people for his matters while he's at work because he never has time - I do a lot of shit around here. And he does appreciate it and he's told me so before.
But now I'd like some actual help. And not the kind that lasts a couple of days before disappearing.
It sounds like we are married to the same man! My husband works 11 hours a day, and I do all the things you do as well. I make him all three meals and I work two days a week. He never offers to do anything, and if I ask he is always too tired. He was home sick from work and I had to watch our son even though when I was running a 102 fever, I had to watch him and cook dinner!
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